Every household has this discussion of whether and when to involve the kids with the household chores. A coin has both sides. There are people who feel it is best to start and teach them young and there are people who believe in letting them enjoy their childhood till it lasts.

I, happen to be one of those who believes that it is best to teach them young. It’s never too early to get your child involved in the household chores. It is best to lay the foundation for skills useful later in life. It is necessary for them to learn that it is part of daily life and that everyone needs to contribute in running a household. After all, these life skills are necessary when they have their own house, job and start their own family.

It might be something very small, but it will teach them to cooperate with others and that helping around the house is important. Kids always copy what mommy and daddy do. So what better way to teach them by starting young. It helps to build their confidence. And yes, don’t forget to praise them plenty, for all their efforts.

Here I have mentioned a few chores that kids of respective ages can help with. There is no hard and fast rule, chores can be different according to every household.

This is just a general idea I have in mind and that i follow.

  • Young kids (around 5 years old) can help with folding small clothes, keeping things (especially their toys) in place, setting up the table at meal times, they can help in making the bed like placing the pillows and sheets, wiping surfaces, serving their own food, handing out clothes while hanging the laundry and throwing the trash. It is best to start with things that they can relate to. Don’t look for perfection. Their effort and willingness to help is what matters.
  • A little older kids (7 to 9 years) can help with dressing themselves up, packing their lunch box and water bottle, setting up their school bag, keeping away their school bag and shoes, sorting everyone’s clothes in different piles, polishing their own school shoes, cleaning up the table after mealtimes, watering the plants and feeding the pet.
  • Once the kids enter their teens, they would like more responsible work. For them it’s more of being part of the real life than just play. Like grocery shopping, cook simple meals, walk the dog, or taking care of the pet, help their younger siblings with schoolwork, baby sit the younger ones when parents are out, mow the lawn they can even help with the laundry, sweeping /mopping/ vacuuming, and wash the utensils. They can even earn some pocket money this way. In fact, in the western countries, teenagers even take up part time or weekend or vacation jobs to earn that extra pocket money or maybe contribute to household finances. This will help improving their confidence, self-esteem, problem solving skills and self-reliance.


  • Let them help as soon as you think they are ready.
  • Initially make it fun.
  • Remember to do it as a team.
  • Encourage and praise them for however small their effort.
  • Reward them with whatever you feel is ok.
  • Never use it as a punishment.
  • And most important. All chores have to be gender neutral. Learning to cook and do the laundry is equally important for boys as is learning to wash their car for girls.
Kids helping with household chores..


A physiotherapist turned blogger and a future educator. A proud army kid and wife. This blog is all about my personal experiences and learnings from being a parent to Saanvi and Anay. "BE HAPPY BE YOU" is what I believe in and I hope to teach the same to my kids. Love, Motherlymess!!!!

8 thoughts on “Kids helping with household chores..

  • August 17, 2019 at 6:41 pm

    Even I have started making Avisha help me with the chores, she is two but shelves her toys when I tell her, brings my phone, keeps things where I ask her to, communicates things to others what I ask her to and also assorts vegetables after I get them from the market it’s really important to inculcate these habits in kids

  • August 17, 2019 at 8:29 pm

    This is a beautiful post about kids activity . It’s nice to make kids involve so that they will not get addicted towards tv or mobiles. I will use them in future

  • August 18, 2019 at 2:16 am

    Children should always be involved in such activities because that Is also a part of learning!

  • August 18, 2019 at 4:26 am

    I am in agreement with you on this one. It is important to learn daily chores and be self dependent . Yes we can afford house help but we should not be dependent on them. It’s the biggest task in my life to teach to my son self dependence. It also is one of my topics for grow with Damuru series. Do give a read if you have a few minutes

  • August 18, 2019 at 11:52 am

    I so agree with you… My parents never allowed us to help in the household chores and I know how difficult it turned out when we left home… So I have learnt my lesson now.

  • August 18, 2019 at 8:08 pm

    Wonderful post. Engaging kids in chores is a way to get some work done 😉 . They need to learn life skills aka chores.

  • September 11, 2019 at 12:41 am

    I agree with this. Additionally , get the boys especially into a habit of helping with chores and taking care of themselves. We all need those helping friends / partners / sons.


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